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ABOUT MARGO DAVIS, MSW, LICSW

I am a licensed psychotherapist, writer, coach, and public speaker. Undergoing divorce in 2011, I didn’t have a pile of money and my constitution was so-so. Heck, I didn’t even have a job. Like most women working through divorce, I faced many tests and trials, however the seemingly relentless series of challenges required me to develop a host of new skills and tools. And this was really key to my evolution. All of the triumphing over obstacles instilled in me a mighty sense of self-efficacy—the belief that I can handle anything the world throws at me. This became my magic sword and I would have missed it if not for my divorce.

Over time my conviction grew that if seen through a new lens, divorce could become a sacred journey into the nexus of female power. In my work as a therapist and coach I explore the question of what it means to be a self-referenced woman and how to achieve that. I believe divorce is an excellent pathway to feminine wholeness. I have written an instructional memoire and guidebook about my own divorce journey that showcases divorce’s many tests and trials as success vehicles. My goal is to give you a way to place your own divorce experience into a larger feminine evolutionary landscape. Divorce can help you forge new skills that will greatly increase your self-efficacy too. Before you know it you will be triumphing over so many obstacles on the way to your awesome new post-divorce identity. 

So I’m at my stove after a long day of work and single parenting, and I hear an author on NPR talking about The Hero’s Journey, popularized by mythologist Joseph Campbell. As if a lightning bolt directly struck my consciousness, I had to pause from stirring the lentil soup and turn up the radio so I could take notes. As if my destiny was speaking, I knew then and there I would be a heroine on a quest—just like every other divorcing woman out there.

The heroine metaphor resonated because of how much courage and tenacity required for me to face my own gnarly habits of dependence and self-betrayal. In short, I had to dispel life-long illusions of self-abandonment. In my book I’ve tried to write about this very human reckoning with my own limitations, raising my two sons while endeavoring to become financially sound and emotionally whole. Integral in my approach is the notion that you can be your very own elixir; a radical departure from the female script of looking for nourishment everywhere but inside. Taking myself under my own wing at this very visceral level rearranged the way I see everything and operate in the world.

Working with women and couples as a therapist and coach since 2007, I received my Master of Social Work degree from Adelphi University and my life-coaching certificate through the Newfield Network in Boulder, Colorado. I am a longtime practitioner of Insight Mediation. As an experienced workshop leader and public speaker, I’ve presented annual women’s programming on healthy relationships at Kripalu Center in Lenox, MA. I live in the Berkshires of western Massachusetts. My life includes my two adult sons and a retired pilot.